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Wednesday, September 9, 2009

A Month Of Love



Things are happening.
A lot of things are happening, even as you sit on your ass and browse through the internet and wonder where all the love is.
Love is. It simply is. And if its not, at this moment, making your life or breaking your spine or rendering you useless or giving you ideas or giving you the flu or laughing in your face, then you are probably the exception rather than the rule.
Love is out there. Doing things. And never more have I realized it since the last one month, when nearly all of my close friends have come to me with some love story or the other. So, names weirdly changed, this is what I have brought for show and tell…

My friend Sash, after years of bugging me to introduce him to my girl friends, has finally found love, in the avatar of a beautiful South Indian girl. His only problem- her family hates him, because he is from a different state and a different caste. My advice to him is to be thankful she is South Indian and not Hariyanvi, or her brother would be coming after him with not sarcasm and disdain, but a butcher knife. Good luck buddy.

The Gothic Angel, a young lady I admired immensely for her very noir style of writing, her dark, dark humour, and her love of morbidity, has stumbled out of the dark and damp into a sunny field of poppies that love can be. Being a very talented person, she expresses this new discovery deliciously, in poems and prose. But I hope she is still morbid. It would be a great loss to the world of blogging if she loses her sense of irony.

Happy, has fallen in love with a girl who is much younger than him and who doesn’t love him back, and he has been, I’m sorry to say, acting like a goat for the past many months. His Lolita has him twirled around her fingers. This week, he found out that she has been lying outrageously to him about most things. But he will not believe. No he won’t. I just want him to know that I’m really sorry all this is happening to him, but he needs to take charge of his own life. People can take advantage of you only as far as you let them.

The grasshopper, who had been ditched by his girl several months ago, insisted on staying in touch with her, contrary to my advice. He said he could not live without her, could not fall out of love. Well, it was fine till one day her new boyfriend picked up, and told him to bugger off and stay away from his girl. GH spent the next few days reeling with shock, humiliation, and misery. Let this be a lesson to all of you- never call up people who have ditched you, unless you want to invite them for your wedding.

My friend Kit lost her boyfriend of 8 years in a very avoidable accident. She was telling me one day on Gtalk about the doubts she was having about their relationship, and whether he was really good enough for her, and how she knew several people who liked her who were smarter, better looking, and more sensitive, and also how she really fancied a guy at her office. Well, he checked into her account that very evening, and went through her chat history. Well, you can probably imagine the rest of the story. No amount of groveling apologies could rescue their relationship and induce him to stay. Kit is today a very humbled, very lonely, very miserable person. Moral of the story- do NOT share your password with your already insecure boyfriend.


Nirvana’s love story is straight out of Ekta Kapoor’s worst nightmare. He loves this girl and she loves him back, but she has been in a relationship for the past eight years, and though it has been long loveless and dead, she cannot leave him because when she was a child, her mom left her dad for someone she loved and now though she respects what her mom did, she does not want to follow her footsteps, and she loves her dad a lot and her dad loves this other guy and blah blah blah bleggghh. Don’t worry, none of this made any sense to me either, so I told him that the only way for him to swim out of this psychological quagmire is to hire somebody to have the girl’s first boyfriend picked up and castrated. I even offered him the number of such a ‘somebody’, but good advice is never appreciated. Sheesh!

Closer home, LGL has shifted to a new city, a new job, and has moved in with her (same old) boyfriend. And she is a much wiser little girl since her last post.

LGL is wiser by this grain: A stuffed bunny will take five minutes to wash, but 2 days to dry..



A lot of things are happening, even as you sit on your ass and browse through the internet and wonder where all the love is.
Amritorupa Kanjilal also writes at Rivers I Have Known: Books, Reviews, and More. Please visit her there!

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Cosmic Joy said...
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Cosmic Joy said...

ok .. i shall join, even though I can't dance :)

Love comes and then goes away. There is no such thing as everlasting love. Everyone becomes the exception in the end.

Wishing LGL the very best on hew new journey!

Minko said...

Indeed!:( And what's more, I happen to know that this Nirvana is getting haywire to keep pace with the Ekta kapoor soap!

"khawney khawney ei chiro-romaancho daan"....Tagore tells, even on a cynical poker face.

Smita said...

Hi A wiser little girl :-)

These were some stories...all I learn from here is do whatever u do but don't save the chat history!!! :-)

But seriously love comes with so many probs!!!

jason evans said...

That's some seriously powerful, churning, and unfortunately unpleasant love energy out there.

Creation said...

Hee Hee! The Gothic Angel can never stop being morbid. It's in the blood, darling!! :P

And, umm, after reading all this, my faith in that statement that was once displayed on your blog (heaven't checked if it still is) has increased a thousand-fold- You collect weird people indeed!

The abstract scientist said...

Hey, long time... you do sound all serious. Hoping that you are having a good time at this new plce.

Tongue-fu Lady said...

the stories sounds good ..and m glad there is loadz of love floating around..peace!

Roshni Mitra Chintalapati said...

you're telling me! Its always good to have a substitute bunny handy, specially when you have a toddler crying hysterically for it!
.....Say! That advice would work for a relationship too, right?!?!

joaquin carvel said...

love is. i agree. these are great stories.

and i agree with almost all of your advice. your friends should listen. except for nirvana - does she have kids? if not, choosing loyalty over love is going to end poorly, even if it takes a lifetime.

so glad you're back. you were missed.

Rane (The Orchid with All Shades Pink) said...

this post had a bunch of so many things..loved the way you put your wit here and there

Rane

Karen said...

Many types of love, LGL, hijack our hearts and steal our comfort. I am adding new loves and letting go of others. I think it's called life.

:: Pearly :: said...

*smiles*

Hopeless Romantic said...

hmmm...interesting incidents...i guess all part of living in a big life...and at times brings out heart breaking things and at times funny incidents.....but at the end of the day...as i always say, there is a new morning....because Love is always new....!

All the best for the heart breaking souls!

And enjoy ur stay in the new city with the old bf :D

Cheers,
Amit

modern exile said...

hmmmm
It really seems to be the season of love, LGL
;)
and, I pray that not everybody's end in rains...

Pradip Biswas said...

LGL you promised to come back and be regular. So you kept your word. LGL, Love is never lost. Love is a fever, which keeps on coming and going. The few episodes of love as narrated by you are interesting. The 10th and final episode of A trek to unknown shall be published in a day or two. Request you to see you there.
pradipwritenow.blogspot.com

Anorak said...

Love is a misnomer
its a sea of pain
I'm scared of the troubled waters
but we still rise in love again .... keep walking!!!

sujata said...

I liked this post LGL all the best with your relationship and new job.

Zeba said...

Wow. This post was very enlightening. This love thing is a bit messy, but we still can't have enough of it. You are posting after a LOOONG time.

Pradiptaa said...

Well, onek din por back to blogging, let alone my come back story.....

This post is different indeed, wiser or not, life changes; so does everything. Well, I look at love from a different perspective. Love is nothing but too much overrated bubble. Pop it or don't pop it, enjoy while its enjoyable.

[kane kane] Bakita Ekta-fekta noi, direct Hitchcock er bhoot er jonyo... :P

Parv Kaushik said...

reading all those love stories m so doubtful of mine.. its so simple and one dimensional.. no hiccups.. touchwood!!! newezz... best of luck.. for the new job new city and yes very old bf!!!

Serendipity said...

wo. thats a lot happening in a months time!
but u seem to be taking all the right sumamries after all, so good going. :D

The Compulsive Traveller said...

thank you for this post ....
I found some reflection in your friends saga and mine.

Only was never open to share.

great way to go:)

laddu said...

indeed everyone is talking abt love dese days....
here is another fella who wrote something abt love.... with a lil (-)ve touch thou

http://laddu-chocolates.blogspot.com/2009/09/i-love-you-jaanu.html

buno mainak said...

i want to be somebody !!!
i want to be 'somebody'!!!